How to speak is not only a knowledge, but also the art of dealing with the world.
writer Tonghua once said:
"there are many kinds of meeting in the world, and the best thing is to meet you in my most beautiful time."
if you meet too early, you will miss being a stranger; if you meet too late, you will lose the courage to love.
the good fortune of life is to meet the most comfortable person in the most beautiful time.
if there is such a person who happens to appear without flattery and accommodation, it will be the most comfortable and comfortable.
A comfortable relationship, don't worry about
"what you ask for in life, if you get what you want, you must have no worries." Joys and sorrows follow the fate, gains and losses follow the fate. "
people in this life, come and go in a hurry, meet is fate.
if you deal with each other everywhere and calculate all the time, in addition to damaging each other's feelings, you will probably lose your precious sincerity.
only when you don't care, can you feel good; only when you don't count, can there be a smile on your face.
Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang, who are affectionate couples, are model couples in the literary world. The secret of their constant companionship is that they never care about it.
Qian Zhongshu does not touch the spring water with ten fingers in her life. Yang Jiang does all the housework alone, but she never complains.
and Qian Zhongshu will also get up early to make a delicious breakfast for Yang Jiang, just to comfort Yang Jiang's homesickness.
Life is about falling in love and staying together, doing what you can.
those who love each other neglect to care, and their hearts are all for each other; those who accompany each other do not have to worry about, and they all go through a long life together; those who stay together, without care, their lives can be handed over to each other.
Life has traveled across mountains and rivers, and getting along with others should be cured and perched for a moment, rather than constantly worrying about it.
cherish those who are at peace with the world and have no complaints.
the time with them is quiet and peaceful, but also warm and leisurely.
A comfortable relationship, there is no need to please
what is the most comfortable relationship between people?
one netizen replied:
"I give you the spring light of March, and you give me peach blossoms in April, so that the true feelings in the world can last forever."
I strongly agree.
We often try our best to please others, hoping to gain love and recognition, even if we don't mean it.
No one knows that no matter how good the relationship is, it won't last long, and it won't be intimate no matter how close it is.
because feelings are originally a matter for two people, one person's going is just chasing, and working hard with each other is happiness.
instead of trying to please, learn to love yourself first.
Su Qing, a talented female writer, gave up her studies for her husband and raised her children at home. She thought that if she paid in this way, she would have a happy marriage.
the reality is that the husband is easily beaten and scolded and completely inconsiderate of her sacrifice, and her mother-in-law is often cynical and harshly.
Su Qing divorced her husband after recognizing the reality, resumed her writing, and finally wrote "Ten years of Marriage", becoming a hot writer in the literary world in Shanghai.
the writer Li Bihua once said, "if he loves you, there is no need to please, and if he does not love you, there is no need."
people who really understand you can understand your difficulties, understand your efforts, and make you feel at ease.
and only in front of them, is the most unrestrained, can also feel more happy.
the rest of your life is long. Leave your heart to those who understand you and your feelings to those who love you.
A comfortable relationship lies in sincerity
there is a sentence in the book Catcher in the Rye:
"True friends, whether men and women, if they know each other, are bound to cherish each other, if the truth is cherished, it is only true, it has nothing to do with the wind."
Friends get along with each other, often with one heart to believe another heart, without suspicion and relationship.
but in the sea of life, the people you meet are of all kinds, and if you give your heart, you may not get it back.
some people act in masks, false hypocrisy, sincerity can only be cool all over the floor, and the warmth of friendship is eliminated.
one netizen said that she had just divorced not long ago, and she would confide her grievances and grievances in her marriage to a friend.
on the surface, her friends give her advice, comfort and relief, but secretly regard them as gossip, embellishing them and spreading them everywhere.
she said that what hurts most is not the gossip of others, but the hypocrisy of friends.
"one thing can be exchanged for another, but the human heart does not necessarily get the human heart."
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not all warmth and kindness will be rewarded; not all sincere efforts will be understood by the other party.
in a short life, all he asks for is that someone can tell him from the bottom of his heart and someone can treat him sincerely.
encounter is the luck of this life, no matter how hard life is, you have nothing to fear.
"as soon as the golden wind and jade dew meet, it wins but countless people."
meeting is the best relationship in the world, and every friend deserves to be cherished.
but life is long and short, so if you spend time with the wrong person, you might as well get rid of it as soon as possible.
you and I are mortal, and the pursuit of happiness is the goal in this life.
for the rest of your life, you can live a good life by finding a person who makes you comfortable, with whom you can communicate and know each other.